MBTI Chat Style According to Personality Type

“Why is this person’s response so dry?”, “Why do they send such long messages all at once?” If you’ve ever stayed up all night because you couldn’t understand the other person’s texting patterns, you may need to check their MBTI (personality type).

The way humans process information is revealed on the digital screen of KakaoTalk. In particular, the differences between E (Extroversion) and I (Introversion), and T (Thinking) and F (Feeling) completely change the tone of the chat.

1. Direction of Energy: E (Extroversion) vs I (Introversion)

• E (Extraversion) Chat Style
  • Characteristics: Sends several short messages in a row as soon as they come to mind (“By the way”, “Oh, right”, “ㅋㅋㅋ” [laughing sounds]).
  • Signal of Interest: Actively suggests phone calls or meetings. “When shall we meet? Should we call?”
  • Caution: Because they send friendly texts to everyone relatively easily, it takes time to distinguish whether it is special ‘only to me’.
• I (Introversion) Chat Style
  • Characteristics: After thinking for a long time with the KakaoTalk screen open, they send one complete, long message bubble.
  • Signal of Interest: If they text you first, it is the result of tremendous courage and energy. If the frequency of quick replies increases, it’s a perfect sign of interest.
  • Caution: Don’t be upset if the reply is late. For introverts, KakaoTalk is one of the tasks that consumes energy.

2. Information Processing Method: T (Thinking) vs F (Feeling)

• T (Thinking) Chat Style
  • Characteristics: The beginning, development, turn, and conclusion are clear, and they value ‘fact-based’ conversations. (e.g., “So what happened?”)
  • Signal of Interest: If they sincerely try to ‘solve’ your problem and search for tips to send you links, it’s true love.
  • Caution: Asking “Why? What’s wrong?” instead of emotional empathy for the words “I had a hard time ㅠㅠ” [crying emoji] is not criticism, but their way of expressing interest.
• F (Feeling) Chat Style
  • Characteristics: They have rich reactions and frequently use texts and emoticons for emotional agreement, such as “헐” [expression of surprise], “대박” [amazing], “진짜?” [really?].
  • Signal of Interest: They try to comfort me by recognizing my subtle mood changes (sadness, joy) with just the nuance of the text.
  • Caution: If emotional give-and-take is not properly achieved (if I answer too much like a T), they may accumulate resentment inside.

3. Customized Communication is Key

Writing short answers does not necessarily mean disinterest (it may be a characteristic of ISTP), and writing long messages does not mean deep affection (it may be the daily life of ENFP). Understanding the other person’s basic operating system (MBTI) allows you to look more calmly at the true heart beyond the text monitor.